Rejection is inevitable in this business. Let’s face it, most writers will hear more, “No’s” than “Yes’s.” It’s hard not to let yourself get down hearted. It’s hard not to lose faith in your work. As much as agents say “It’s not personal,” rejection is just that. In essence it’s saying, “You’re not good enough for me.”
Now, I am not trying to take frustration out on agents. They have a hard job too. They have to go through thousands of queries and pick only a handful to represent. I get that. I can completely understand that side of it. I wouldn’t want their job. I’d hate to have to be the one rejecting.
That doesn’t change the fact that when a rejection comes in, it is personal. So with all that whining in mind, how do you deal with it?
For me. I’m going to have a nice drink and relax this evening. Maybe sit down and watch a movie with my daughter, forgetting all about writing for the rest of the day.